November 22, 2010

When Do You Believe?

It hasn't sunk in yet that I'm pregnant.  Exhaustion, bloating and sore boobs aside, am I really pregnant?  It's a very foreign place to be right now.  I never expected to deal with infertility and then once I was forced to deal with that horrible reality part of me never expected to actually be pregnant one day.  Sure I hoped and tried really hard to get here, but there was a small part of me that wondered if perhaps it wasn't in the cards for me. 

Not drinking is not helping it to sink in.  This weekend I declined a glass of wine - which is unheard of for me - and blamed it on this cold that I'm just getting over.  I got invited out for drinks with girlfriends next weekend which I declined because how the hell am I supposed to go to out for drinks and not have a glass (or two or three) of wine without raising suspicion?  There's no excuse good enough that my friends will believe.  And I am not ready to tell them. 

I am frantically trying to find a midwife - even though I live in a big city with several midwifery practices there is such high demand for midwives that finding a midwife is almost next to impossible.  I ordered some birthing books.  Yet it still hasn't sunk in.

When will I believe that's it real?  When I see a little speck or blob on an ultrasound that is supposed to be a baby?  When I hear a heartbeat?  When I puke?  When I no longer fit into my clothes?  When I finally tell my family?  When I start decorating the empty room in our house that I would never let Mr. Scout turn into a guest room because it was always intended to be a nursery?

When did you believe?

1 comment:

  1. I am just a few days ahead of you, and even though I am puking and can't keep my eyes open I am still peeing on sticks any chance I get.

    I still don't' know when it will kick in.

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