October 28, 2010

Confessions of an Infertile

  • I sometimes resent women who get pregnant without any difficulty.  I can't help but wonder if they know how truly miraculous a pregnancy is.  And can they have the same appreciation for pregnancy and children that I would have after what I've been through?*

  • I'm not fully out of the IF closet.  Only a few friends know about my journey and mostly they are amazing women who have battled IF themselves.  I know my family would want to know, but I can't bring myself to inflict our pain on them.

  • There are days when I don't know if I really want the end result...it feels like too much work to keep going.

  • I don't regret not TTC sooner.  There's no way to know if the result would have been any different.  And I loved my life pre-TTC.  Me and Mr. Scout had some amazing fun and adventure.

  • I feel guilty that my IF journey has been "easy" compared to that of other women.  What right do I have to complain and feel upset or angry when what I've endured is nothing compared to what they've endured?

  • I shop...A LOT.  It makes me feel better.  And I justify it by telling myself that once I have children I won't be able to spoil myself this much so I had better take advantage of it now.  And it makes me feel better.  If I can't have a baby then damnit I'm going to have those fabulous shoes...and that stunning dress...and that 63rd bottle of nail polish that I don't really need.  And did I tell you it makes me feel better?

  • I spend way too much time at work reading other people's IF blogs.
*By no means do I think this will make me a better parent.  Parenting is the hardest job in the world I'm sure.  But like anything in life, if you have to work hard to achieve it don't you appreciate it a little more than if it was just handed to you without much effort?

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